Boorish mother calls son-in-law's anniversary gift 'cheap,' daughter kicks her out of the party: 'Was it the alcohol?'

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    AITA for kicking my Mum out of my Anniversary party because she called my husbands gift "cheap"?
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    1 (28F) just celebrated my first wedding anniversary last night with my wonderful husband (29M). We had a party with both our families and friends. It was a great night or at least it was to begin with. My Husband and I exchanged our gifts at the party, my gift to him was a better wedding ring as our originals ones were quite cheap and on the inside of the ring is the heartbeat of our 1 month old daughter from when I was pregnant.
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    His gift to me was a necklace of stones, I was a bit confused at first but he explained to me that every rock was collected during an important day with me, his hobby is to collect rocks so i'd never thought anything of him picking. them up. He explained how he'd tumbled them and shaped them into the necklace for me. I was honestly blown away by how lovely that was and immediately put it on.
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    During the party, my Mum who'd had a few drinks in her by this point commented that my Husband was cheaping out on his gift and how he'd not even spent actual money on it unlike me. I told my Mum that he'd spent time on it which mattered more.
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    At this point she was getting louder and insisted it was less than I deserved, I could see she was going to end up making a scene so I told my brother to get her out of my home. Thankfully he did. As she left I informed her until she apologised I didn't want her in my home.
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    Am I the her comments come from a place of concern and she had been drinking, was I perhaps too harsh on her? I just feel hurt by her words over what to me had been a beautiful moment. ? I know she feels like
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    DgShwgrl 7h ago • NTA! I told my Mum that he'd spent time on it which mattered more. You're married now, so in theory money comes from a joint account. In your situation I'd be thrilled to receive something so thoughtful! I'm sure your Mum will sober up and apologise in no time.
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    • Spice-Fairy04 6h ago NTA. It sounds like your husband put a lot of thought and love into crafting a unique gift that has real sentimental value-a necklace made of stones collected on special days is pretty much the epitome of thoughtful! While it's great that your mom wants the best for you, there's a time and place for expressing concerns, and the middle of your anniversary party definitely wasn't it.
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    Handling the situation by having her leave was probably the best move to prevent further drama and keep the night about your celebration. It's tough to take action like that against a family member, especially when drinks are involved and emotions are running high, but your anniversary is about you and your husband, not about catering to unsolicited critiques on gift-giving.
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    An apology from her might help smooth things over, but don't doubt yourself-preserving the joy of your special moment was important. Hopefully, she'll come to see the beauty in the gift and the effort behind it once the hangover clears up!
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    heyhicherrypie • 6h ago Nta and img your husband is so sweet! He's like a penguin giving you the cool rocks he can find! (Complimentary I swear). Congrats on the sweet partner and on having the backbone to stand up for him, anyone can buy
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    something expensive as a gift if they really want to, but to have the kind of care and creativity to come up with something personal like that is awesome- not your fault your mum couldn't see how lucky you are
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    • lujza_blaha 7h ago NTA. If she apologises, accept it, if she doesn't, stick to what you told her would happen. That's literally the only way to maintain a boundary (one of which is that we don't comment on gifts, whether it's for us or not).
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    Plane-Trifle3608 7h ago . Both of your gifts sound so lovely and thoughtful, I'm really inspired and touched just by reading it. NTA, comments like that do NOT come out of concern. Congrats on your anniversary!
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    000-Hotaru_Tomoe .7h ago NTA Your mom's comment was tacky. Was it intentional? She must apologize for being mean. Was it the alcohol? She must apologize for drinking too much.
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    whynousernamelef • 7h ago Nta. That's absolutely adorable! I would cherish a gift like that. It's easy to walk into a shop and spend money but he put time, energy, thought and love into the necklace. He's a keeper for sure.
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    Cool_Cranberry_7189 • 5h ago Absolutely NTA. personally, any presents that take time and thought GREATLY outweigh anything you can buy. Everytime you look at it, you can be reminded that he spent HOURS thinking about you. And the fact that he used his own hobby shows that he wants you in his life. You have a great husband
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    FrizzWitch666 · 6h ago • I think your husband did an amazing job and clearly went about it with intent. Tell him the club of happy spouses celebrates his gift giving. Your mom needs to be reminded of what's really important in marriage when she sobers up.
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    AHO Baffled PigeonHead 6h ago • NTA and that is a seriously wonderful gift from hubby. I think you should keep him forever x x

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